Monday, April 14, 2014

How to ask a girl for a date? ( for boys)

Asking out a girl is one of the main events in boys' life. Of course, a girl might ask out a boy too. But in general, those chances are very few. Are you afraid of requesting a girl for a date? Do you lack confidence to express your love? Actually, there are not any basics here. 
                                               Just follow your natural instinct
That is the best way. But to make your life easier, we will give you some clues.

Sometimes a guy hides his feelings for his (Girl) friend, until the point where she starts dating with a new guy. So, this may work in the movies a lot, but in real life, if you ever do something like that, you’re definitely setting yourself up for failure. If you feel love for a girl who is already a friend of yours, you have a good chance to go through this. But, if you don’t know much about this girl yet, you have to make some efforts. 

If you don’t know about the girl, you have to approach her in a way or other. But remember the first impression is the most important. Is she someone you walk past occasionally? or is she around you on day to day life?
Then, it will be a warm smile expressing good wishes (Ex: Good morning) at first. 
So, this will surely lead to a conversation after some days.
  • Keep remember that if you are having a chat, girls tend to look at your face, but don't assume immediately that she likes you. When you talk with her, look directly at her. While talking, make sure to look at her face specially her eyes. 
  • Pay more attention to what she is saying, so when she asks you something or stops talking, you can continue the conversation intelligently. 
  • Don't get caught staring at her body. If she doesn't look at you or she ignores you, step back, and leave her alone for a while. Some girls don't like looking in the eyes and talking. Read her body language instead. 
  • Always remember to dress well and be clean always. 
  • Make her feel comfortable around you with your good humor. Be very simple. Try to crack some jokes, but don't be too funny. 
  • Charm her and compliment her often. Let's her see that you notice the little things about her that makes her pretty. If she’s wearing something nice, compliment her about it. If she looks great, tell her she looks really pretty.

If you feel she is comfortable with you, try to spend more time with her. if no one’s around, that is even better. In this way she will get more comfortable with you. Not only that, then she feels missing your company, when you are not around her. That’s a good sign. When you are not around her, try to call her, asking some advices and help from her. Try to do things together. Let her know that being around her feels good for you too. 

If you go through successfully above steps and still that girl is being with you means, the girl you like, would most probably really like you too. But just to make sure that she likes you a lot more-than-just-friends, call her late at night or text. You could start this by texting late in the evenings, and work your way to texts in bed within a few days.

So now give it a “go”. When the time is right, ask her for a date. Ask her to go for the movies or something else you both would be interested in. You could also invite her to restaurant for a lunch. Or after emotional conversation at a late night, you could ask for a date. Or when both of you are sitting next to each other on a bench. Of course may be on a phone, if you are a bit timid guy. If she says "no", smile and respond gracefully by saying, "No problem! May be some other time." and change the conversation to something else.

Don’t try to confess your feelings for a girl until she begins to like you. Shocking a girl with an unexpected confession of love is the worst thing you can do, because it’ll almost always end with her rejecting you. After all, confessing your love to a girl is the easiest part. But if you want to avoid any kind of rejection and want to ensure that she’d say yes to you, do your way into your heart so she can actually like you and fall for you. When the right moment arrives , pour your heart out to her and confess your love.

But you need to remember that the worst thing a girl could say is “no”. Of course, it’ll hurt. But think of it this way, by not telling a girl how you feel, you’re only making yourself feel miserable. Therefore, have courage, don't be afarid of any rejections, take the first step to approach her.

Think, What would you do if another guy makes a move before you?

By Manu Fernando

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